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posted on 2004-2-14 at 19:23
do you think that there is something instinctive and primal about being around your biological mother/father? while in the womb is the mother just
acting as a vessel, or is there a relationship being created?
Amid the chaos of that day, when all I could hear was the thunder of gunshots, and all I could smell was the violence in the air, I look back and am
amazed that my thoughts were so clear and true, that three words went through my mind endlessly, repeating themselves like a broken record:
you're so cool, you're so cool, you're so cool. And sometimes Clarence asks me what I would have done if he had died, if that bullet
had been two inches more to the left. To this, I always smile, as if I'm not going to satisfy him with a response. But I always do. I tell him
of how I would want to die, but that the anguish and the want of death would fade like the stars at dawn, and that things would be much as they are
now. Perhaps. Except maybe I wouldn't have named our son Elvis.
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posted on 2004-2-14 at 20:02
Ok, I have thought about this for a moment. I think the process of birth is building a bond for the mother, not the child. I think once born,
that's when the child begins the relationship.
By saying that, I feel that by being adopted, that does not affect a person's relationship with females.
I don't think there is any difference to a child whether the mother is biological or not. As long as the woman raises the child like a mother
should, the child will know no difference.
I guess I can sort of say this with a little confidence because my fiancee and half her siblings are adopted. I have seen them interact with eachother
and there is nothing slightly different about the way she interacts with her mother, than the way I act with mine. I've asked her similar
questions to the ones that have been asked and she always says always says she never thinks about it in that way..the woman who raised her IS her mom.
She has absolutely no urge to find her biological parents.
I guess circumstances could be different if you weren't raised from birth and were adopted at a slightly older age. But, in the end, it's
a case by case thing. Everyone takes the situation differently. There really is no final answer to this question.
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posted on 2004-2-15 at 05:39
I SWEAR I will elaborate on this with something really long and interesting, but right now my brain is fried..too much drinking.
you won't let me down...
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posted on 2004-2-15 at 16:07
Well if the baby likes/shares a relationship with his motha, why does he/she kick her so many times? I have to agree with Chris on this one, anyone of
a motherly figure to the child will be accepted. If I claimed to be a child's mom at birth, I'm sure it would accept me.
one last show.
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posted on 2004-2-15 at 18:09
quotation:Originally posted by Pure_Ibanez_Sound
Well if the baby likes/shares a relationship with his motha, why does he/she kick her so many times? I have to agree with Chris on this one, anyone of
a motherly figure to the child will be accepted. If I claimed to be a child's mom at birth, I'm sure it would accept me.
i hope that's this Chris you're agreeing with, although i think the other Chris also agrees with this one.
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posted on 2004-2-15 at 23:45
so unless dez's brain becomes unfried and she wants to explain herself i'd say new topic....i'd have to agree with chris, chris, and
chris on this one tho
How do you communicate those emotions that are so intense that no physical expression or series of words can even scratch the surface?
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posted on 2004-2-16 at 04:09
I have never been more confused... while sober.
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posted on 2004-2-16 at 04:20
new topic.... how about:
does fate exist?
the act of sacraficing bitter memories
i cant bring myself to fogive you, i cant force myself to fogive you, i cant bring myself to forgive you
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posted on 2004-2-16 at 05:50
dont ask me, im the one with the crazy philosiphies about us living the same life over and over again that no one understands... but i would say yes,
because of my beleifs (refer to the "Life" thread)
Some things take more than a lifetime.
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posted on 2004-2-16 at 07:14
Consider:
Each person is conditionned by their environment and genetics to be a certain way. So while they may apparently have a freedom of choice, really all
their choices are made in advance (by the predisposition of their nature). If this is true, then people's interaction with each other becomes
similarly pre-determined, and likewise the whole of humanity and its actions are locked into one single path. Neither of these are unreasonable jumps
in logic. It could be true.
