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posted on 2004-5-3 at 07:43
Bullies
Alright, so I'm walking into the video store with my fiance so we can rent a movie, and as we walk in, this awful person from my past is walking
out. My heart dropped, and past memories flooded back.
When I was in high school, I was lucky enough to get by as a shadow most of the time and go unnoticed, but occasionaly I was nagged on by a horrible
human being known as a bully. It rarely happened and it was normally quite tame, normally it was just a gesture or comment that offended me. And it
probably only happened a couple times a year...nothing that could traumatize me.
There was, however, this mother fucker in the grade above me that I shared a few classes with. The spawn of satan always let everyone know that he was
better than them. He would bump into me and stare down at me, glare at me from across the classroom as if he were imagining me shrivel into nothing,
laugh and add occasional comments here and there. Grant it, this was only one year, and it was quite rare. But it struck alot of fear in me when I was
near him and his entourage for quite some time. I really began to loathe him and wish some pretty horrible things. This one guy that sat near me was
enraged one day and very convincingly said he was going to kill him. Clearly the monster made it his mission to make people other than myself
miserable, too.
So, back to the beggining. The guy walked by me tonight at a video store. The memories I once thought were gone forever came back to me. I felt like I
was 16 all over again. Afraid. And very angry for being afraid. I went on a rant for a while and thought of some pretty ugly things I wanted to do to
do this guy. Needless to say, it shocked me that I am nearly 23 years old and I could be acting this way. I calmed down after a few hours and
it's all in the past.
This did make me wonder about other peoples encounters with bullies. I imagine some of you guys have been through alot worse. Any stories anyone wants
to share? So you have thoughts of severly harming the person? Have you every regretfully bullied someone? Discuss....
One other quick story (I know this is long..sorry). I was watching some caught on video program on tv and they were showing school bus muggings. There
was one that was just horendous. This huge fat bastard was punching a kid as hard as he could for a very long time and the small guy was helpless. He
was really getting beaten bad. All the other kids were just sitting there watching, too afraid to help. The bus driver didn't actually stop for
some reason. I can't remember the injuries, but the little guy was harmed severly. I think with concusions and broken bones. It was truly awful.
If I were there, I would throught the fat bastard off the bus while it was in motion.
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 07:54
I guess I've been lucky. Or maybe potential bullies were just intimidated by me...
(That's a joke...)
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 07:58
Lucky you.
It mostly happened in my chubby, afro, short years. I guess people like to poke fun at the fat kid. Luckily I got alot taller, bigger, buzzed my head
and thinned out a little.
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 12:40
Not something I want to get into, at all. Basically there are far too many stories with me on the giving (which I still remember every incident to
this day, and hate myself for) and receiving ends, and that's about all I'm going to say on the matter.
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 13:09
being so tall, having a shaven head and hanging around with a lot of tall mates means that i get started on regularly in pubs and such. it eludes me
as to why nobheads like this feel that they have to "prove" themselves by getting into fights they clearly won't win, just for the
hell of it. turds.
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 13:58
I can't really picture you as tough cause I've seen a photo of Bart, and just figure you look like him.
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 17:10
I find with my height, size and hair, it actually creates the opposite for me. Nobody ever gives me shit. Fights aren't very common where I am
from, anyway. I haven't been bothered by anyone for years.
I remember when I was in high school I remembered every single incident, as well. I would run through my head all the people I hated and what they
said or did. Like I said, being bothered wasn't very common, but it clearly had an impact on me whenever I was at school. It's all in the
past, though.
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 20:46
You're a cool dude now Chris, just look at the awesomely tubular name we (as in all 10000 of us) share. Plus, your rather regular looking.
Anyways, about bullying...
Throughout gr's 1-6, I was probably the most tortured kid in my school. The girls and guys were so fucking bad to me. Yes, girls as well. That
was partially due to the fact that I had really no sence of style and was a total momma's boy. Needless to say, I've grown out of that.
I had this crush on a girl named Taylor M. in grade 5, and the guys wouldn't stop harrasing me about it. First, they told me that she liked me,
and then proceded to take me behind the dumpster where she was waiting. Then, they literally threw me onto her and began to kick the crap out
(I've got scars and shit to proove it)of me when she got up. That hurt a lot and it wasn't fun.
Like both Chris' I'm constantly gocked @ because of my height, I don't mind it at all.. I actually enjoy being tall. But it
get's annoying and really uncomfortable when each of your relatives want to measure you. :N:
My friend Kyle, we call him Bubba (for obvious reasons) consistently gets teased about his weight. I'm not one to judge anyone on their
appearence, so when people make fun of him it really pisses me off. We went down to the bowling alley to crab some pizza @ lunch and the guy behind
the counter (some faggot from our school) proceeded to call him a 'fat ass' and ask 'Are you sure you don't want three, or
four more slices?' It was fucking horrible. I took that character to the cleaners the day after.
I'm not really bullied anymore. I've concluded that if you nod and say hi to everyone, everything will turn out good. It also helps that
I'm friends with people in all of the groups (smokers, gino's, thugs, etc). But back in the day, growing up, it was the worst time of my
life ever.
Oh, as a last example.. In about grade 7 this kid named Mike Pelon (<<fuck you!<< consistently teased and bullied me throughout middle
school (gr. 7-8). He was more of a "insulter" I guess, he never physically hurt me. To this day, I'm still looking to fight that
bastard. He threatend to shoot me, and said he'd fuck my mom numerous times. Now, I just laugh at what a faggot this kid has become. Bald
head(not that there's anything wrong with it), two studs in both ears, and he's all gangstered out. Shit's quite funny..
Anyways, you know how they say "sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me." Once I grew older and became the
person that I am today, I realized how completely and utterly false that statement was.
Bottom line is that bullies are no fun at all.
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 20:52
I dont get teased as much as i get called things
I dont have many friends that are female..me and my best friend usually just hang out with all the guys we know..cuz i dont know we get along better
with guys
I think its because we are blonde, we know we are cute...and we are flirts
Its not like i am a whore who sleeps around, its just i really dont know
I like to wear skirts, and girls have a problem with that, when we go dancing me and my best friend like to have a good time..ya sometimes we dance
togther, but hey it doesnt make us whores
and ya we go around dacing with all the pretty boys
so ya
I get called names like "slut" "Whore" and what not
It doesnt bother me that much, cuz i know i aint a whore, i am just having a good time...
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 21:52
I got teased from grade 1-5, mainly because my name was Paige, and so I got alot of "Pagemaster" and "Turn the page" and shit
like that. I also got teased in grade 3 because I was the first girl to start wearing a bra. I don't really get teased now, though....people
probably talk alot of shit about me behind my back but I could really care less about that. I'm not looking to please everyone, I'm just
being myself and if people don't like that then they can kiss my ass. The end.
The night's as hot as hell. It's a lousy room in a lousy part of a lousy town - I'm staring at a goddess. She's telling me she
wants me. I'm not going to waste one more minute wondering how I've gotten this lucky. She smells like angels ought to smell, the perfect
woman... the Goddess. Goldie. She says her name is Goldie.
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 22:11
It's always good when you can shrug it off and say "fuck it". I know I acted as if I didn't care, but I did. It made me
furious. The good thing for me is I never felt like the things that were said about me were true. I never felt below the person, I always felt above.
Unfortunately, people that get teased/picked on really bad tend to take it to heart and the words become true.
Isn't there a law against bullying now? I remember hearing something about that. I wonder if it's making a difference.
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 22:14
I really feel bad about how I acted towards some of the kids from 1-6 grade. I wasn't really a big bully, but, honestly, ppl looked towards me
for the exceptance back then. And if someone pissed me off, it seemed like everyone hated him. I wish i hadn't been such an asshole to some of
the kids.
I've never realy had a problem with bullies, altho there are two guys in the grade older then me that for some reason have a problem with me(I
swear, i didn't know he was going out ith her) but everyone else likes me so they don't sya much anymore
How do you communicate those emotions that are so intense that no physical expression or series of words can even scratch the surface?
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 22:19
ya it dont bother me when i get called things...like its not my fucken fault i have guy friends....people are just retarded
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 22:25
Hey, woman can get pretty nasty. Woman just weren't meant to be friends with eachother. All the woman I know only hang out with guys and have
one or two female friends.
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I only have like 5 close female friends. Girls are bitches.
The night's as hot as hell. It's a lousy room in a lousy part of a lousy town - I'm staring at a goddess. She's telling me she
wants me. I'm not going to waste one more minute wondering how I've gotten this lucky. She smells like angels ought to smell, the perfect
woman... the Goddess. Goldie. She says her name is Goldie.
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 22:30
Paige you are sooooooo right girl
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 22:30
Has it always been this way, do you think? It seems like it's something people are very aware of nowadays. It seems like it's something
that has gradually become worse.
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 22:31
I agree. Girls just aren't meant to be together. I can't stand the little drama they have. It is really annoying, since i'm the
most laid back guy
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 22:38
Its weird tho, cuz my best friend in the world is a girl, and we never fight, about anything...but then again we are soooooo different
she is rich and beautiful and russian and has a BF
and
i am just normal
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 22:43
I'm not really anything like my friends now that i think of it. But that can be saved for another thread
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 23:09
i have a few good friends that are girls, but overall i find that many girls really annoy me. i spend a lot of time hanging out with guys....that can
get annoying too, but not nearly as bad as superficial drama queens.
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posted on 2004-5-3 at 23:12
I'm a big believer in revenge. I know it's petty and vindictive but if I were you I would have got his lisence plate and tracked him down
and done something horrible to his car or house or family. I know it puts me at the level of the bully, but I don't really give a damn.
Revenge is a dish best served cold, and if this guy made you feel the way you describe, then he has it coming.
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I have been bullied my entire life…mostly because I barely ever stood up for myself or because I was the “fat kid”. I moved around throughout Canada
several times and I used to be really shy… so it was very difficult to make friends. It was even worse because I had a younger brother that got
bullied too, and I could never really defend him whether I wanted to or not, not to say I didn’t try. I had and still do have a hard time sticking up
for myself…but I’m learning, or trying to anyway. Years of being bullied can really add up on your self-conscience and you start to believe a lot of
the stuff they say. It pushes you to do horrible things to yourself…and it’s really hard to look past it. But in the end there’s always at least one
good friend to help you crawl out of that hole in the ground. Even tell this day I get the odd push or threat but I’ll now stick up for myself and I’m
no longer afraid of them…besides what’s the worst they can do, can’t be any worst then what I was doing to myself right? The problem is that when
people say things…it’s not that their saying is what makes it hurt…it’s that you believe what they are saying…that’s how I feel about it anyway. The
thing is, in life, there will always be someone around to push you down…but then again there will always be someone to help you up and get back on
your feet. (thanx Carok!)
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posted on 2004-5-4 at 02:38
DeZy= equals a bully :p:... shhh
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posted on 2004-5-4 at 03:02
well.. i've never been too picked on in school.. im not a bully at school either lol.. im just the casual guy thats there lol. but my outside
school life has been quite different.. a few street fights.. but nothing major. But about 3 years ago i went out for a bike ride.. not even like 5
minutes after i left.. these 3 fuckers decided to stop me and have a "chat"... so i figured. well i could try and deffend myself..but 3
guys all bigger then im.. im royally fucked LOL so anyways i decided i'll just try and get out of this.. but i got punched and kicked.. and
all that.. for no reasons.. I had never seen these three. Over all i wasn't that hurt.. just a lil banged up for a few days.. but they PISSED
the HELL out of me!! (i had no chance onless I knew some like Jackie chan shit.. but that only works in the movies HAHA) and sometimes i'd like
to see them one on one some day HAHAHA.. but yet.. i dunno if i'd do anything.. it sounds sorta imature ... haha
